Why is it so scary to ask someone to coffee? Or confess your feelings? It’s because we’re all scared of being turned down. But is avoiding any situation or person that could potentially bring rejection really a great way to live? Fearing rejection lessens your courage to take advantage of an opportunity.  

Think about Barbie and how most people would describe her…Probably as beautiful, yet Barbie is not living and has no inner beauty. It’s purely physical. Now think about someone in your life who is beautiful. Is it their physical looks that make them beautiful or is it their heart and personality? We tend to define others based on their physical appearance. We define what their dating life must look like, thinking that the most “beautiful” girls and “hottest” guys can get any person they want and will never experience rejection. Believing this lie is the problem because everyone will be rejected, in one way or another, at some point during their life. Rejected by that cute boy or girl. Rejected by a job. Rejected from an experience. Rejected by a friendship.

From personal experience, I can say that rejection is no fun. It hurts when you find the courage to express feelings to someone and they aren’t reciprocated. It hurts when that happens multiple times. But you know if Barbie was living, I’m sure she would’ve experienced her fare share of rejection as well. One of my favorite quotes says:

“Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough, it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer.”

If someone wants to walk away from you and not take advantage of the opportunity of getting to experience your beautiful, invisible qualities (because the most important parts of a person are invisible), then let them. You are so much more than a “no” or no response. Rejection does not define you!!! You are a precious diamond, worthy of honor and SO loved by God (check out 1 Peter 2).

With the right attitude you can learn so much from rejection. Being rejected is a wonderful opportunity to grow in self-awareness, looking deeper into your heart because maybe just maybe the issue is within yourself and not the other person. Of course, that’s not always the case, but no matter what God is going to use rejection to shape your heart and character. Rejection really is a blessing in disguise because some amazing friendships can blossom after expressing honest feelings, accepting what is, and moving forward. However, it is important to be aware of the fact that not every person that comes into your life is meant to stay. Putting yourself out there and taking a chance makes you so courageous, and even if that chance ends in rejection, God can use it for a much bigger purpose!


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